Mastering emotions is very difficult as people are often directed by feelings. Feelings manage the direction individuals follow in the day; the decisions they make in their relationships, finances and careers. The joy and fulfillment of many people are affected by how they feel.
It is crucial not to make important decisions when you are feeling very low or overly ecstatic – wait for your feelings to stabilize so that your decisions could be sustainable and responsible.
Regulating your emotions efficiently and taking responsibility for your behaviour is the highest measure of emotional intelligence.
You may not be able to get rid of your feelings – but you can control what you do with them!
To master your emotions:-
Discover and identify the emotions you experience
To keep your emotions intact - keep your Life Balance in good shape by balancing the four quadrants of your Life Enrichment Matrix©
Practice regulating your emotions
Take care of being over-sensitive and touchy
Take responsibility for your behaviour
Learn new ideas and theories
Reminisce on positive experiences
Develop gratitude and appreciation
On the quest of discovering emotions, it is important to know your moods and feelings and what their origin is, what triggered the feelings in the first place.
Physiologically we must be cautious since hormone levels in our brain and our endocrine system could affect our moods and how we feel. Other health-related issues could also affect our emotions such as low or high blood sugar; low or high blood pressure; weight; our cardiovascular state; and digestive systems, could have a direct influence on how we feel.
People who are being treated with sleeping and antidepressant medications could also experience the effects on their mood and demeanor, having a direct physiological and mental influence on their feelings.
Spiritually and emotionally individuals could be affected by relational or emotional challenges such as losing a person in their life, divorce or illness. Their hearts feeling sickened and affecting their wholeness, making it difficult nearly impossible to reflect a good state of the heart. Feelings that develop from an ill body or sick heart have to undergo spiritual and emotional healing, that only time can offer.
Assumptions the 'mother' of all emotions:-
Many feelings and reactions have been constructed on assumptions, causing destruction and misunderstandings in business deals, relationships and friendships. When learning to master your emotions, it is important not to make assumptions on anything. People have different realities and even though their worlds may differ, it does not profit anyone to assume what another person's intentions or behaviours reflect.
Generally, negative feelings develop from assumptions and ideas that develop in our thought patterns. We observe peoples body language; their voice tones; their moods; how they conduct and approach conversations; and we consider from the history of previous experiences with them. All these observations become contemplation's that we ponder over and they normally brood contention and more and more intense feelings, be it positive or negative. Our observations have to be confirmed if we want to make successful and effective deductions over our interactions.
Working from substantiated facts and confirming what we “think” we observed and felt, will be advantageous for our emotional health. Functioning from a platform of rejection, fear or instability because of our over-sensitive feelings causes unnecessary intense feelings, which could be regulated at the formation of the assumption. Practice emotional strength and do not create feelings from the stance of assumptions.
It is essential to know what is affecting your emotions, but in the end, the choice and decision to train your brain are yours.
Changing fleeting feelings to a more sustainable sound emotional base, cultivates emotional intelligence and builds a sound mind.
There are many benefits to taking control of your emotions:-
When regulating your feelings you set yourself in a position to be successful – since your foundational decision-making derives from the core of realistic wise decisions, not fleeting assumptions.
Taking charge of your feelings makes you thrive – since the sense of balance makes you experience joy and fulfillment.
When you take control of your feelings you come over as a person with courage - confident in yourself and you reflect positive self-worth.
As you regulate your feelings you generate consistency from within – which cultivates stability.
A person with a well regulated emotional stance develops beauty from within and contagious wisdom.
Emotionally regulated individuals are consequent, reliable and express a sense of order in their life.
Regulation of emotions encourages an individual to take on difficult challenges with courage.
When regulating your feelings you take responsibility for your behaviour – creating harmony.
People who take control of their emotions know where they are going.
Emotional regulation is not denying, ignoring or suppressing feelings, but consciously managing them as they shape our minds and behaviours.
We cultivate emotional intelligence daily, by including self-improvement and growth as part of our Life Balance.
Elvira
JustLive coach
If you are tuned out of your own emotions, you will be poor at reading them in other people. Daniel Goleman.
PS: Refer to JustLive’s addition on “Practical ways to regulate your feelings.”